Your cat isn’t doing it to spite you. Here’s what they’re trying to tell you, and what you can change.

If it helps to hear it: you are far from alone.

What matters for you is the conclusion: very often, this has a reason you can find. Not a flaw in your cat. Not a failure on your part. A reason.

If you’ve gone looking for help, you’ve probably found two kinds of answer.

The first kind is free, and there’s a lot of it. Ten tips here, seven mistakes there. Some of it is good. Much of it contradicts the rest. Almost none of it tells you which tip applies to your cat, in your home, or in what order to try them.

The second kind is a consultation with a feline behaviour specialist. Personal, thorough, and the right choice for some cats. But it costs more than most owners expect to spend on a problem they still hope will sort itself out, and it isn’t where most people start.

Most owners end up somewhere in the middle: a pile of tips, no plan, and a growing sense that they’re the problem.

We wanted to build the thing in between. One clear method, written up as one guide for each problem, that you can follow at home, step by step, at your own pace.

That’s what Felina is. We started with the litter box, because it’s the problem that makes home life hardest, for owners and for cats. Then we wrote the same method for three more problems that wear a home down: scratching, aggression, and fear and hiding.

We also make what the method uses at home: Little Wins, our treats, for the reward steps, and Felina Home, a plug-in diffuser. The guide is the method; they make it easier to keep going, day after day.

Some of the oldest advice about cats and litter boxes is still the most common. It comes from good intentions. But some of it does real harm.

”Rub their nose in it.” Your cat doesn’t connect the puddle with what happens to them minutes later. They connect it with you. What they learn is that you are unpredictable, and that peeing where you can see it is a bad idea. So they find somewhere you can’t see.

”Shout, clap, or use a water spray.” Same problem, louder. A cat who already feels unsettled at home now has one more thing to feel unsettled about: you.

”Clean it with bleach.” Many household cleaners, especially ones with ammonia, leave a smell that can remind a cat of urine. You see a clean floor. Your cat may smell a toilet.

”Just get a spray or a plug-in.” Our guide has a plug-in diffuser among its changes, but as one change among the others, never instead of them. On its own, it can’t make a box bigger, move it away from the washing machine, or give the second cat a box of their own.

”Try this. Then this. Then this.” A new litter on Monday, a box in the bedroom on Wednesday, a spray on Friday. When everything changes at once, you never learn what mattered, and your cat has five new things to get used to.

The other problems have their own versions. The cat who scratches the sofa gets a squirt of water, and learns to scratch when you’re out. The cat who swats gets told off or picked up, and learns that hands can’t be trusted. The cat under the bed gets pulled out “to get used to people”, and finds a better hiding place. Each time, the behaviour is punished, and the reason behind it stays exactly where it was.

None of this is your fault. It’s what most of us are told. The trouble is that all of it starts from the same idea: that the behaviour is the problem.

It isn’t. The puddle is the message. So are the scratch marks, the hiss, and the cat who won’t come out.

If you’re reading this and thinking “I should have noticed”, please don’t.

Most of the drops in your cat’s glass are invisible to us. Your cat can smell the stranger cat who sprayed the front door last night. They can hear the fridge, the boiler and the neighbour’s dog in a way you can’t. They notice that the box is now three steps from the radiator, not five.

And the things we can see, nobody tells us about. The box you bought was the one the shop sold, not one sized for your cat. A covered box looks tidier to us, and can feel like a trap to a cat who can’t see who’s coming. Putting the box in a quiet corner by the fridge seems kind, until you remember that the food bowl is there too, and cats prefer not to eat where they go.

It’s the same with the other problems. A post too short for a full stretch looks fine in a shop. A cat who swats when stroked may have been asking you to stop for a while. A cat who hides looks shy, not frightened.

You did what any loving owner would do with the information you had. This letter is just more information.

You don’t need to rearrange your life, or your flat.

The Stressed Cat comes in two parts: a PDF, and fourteen daily emails. The delivery email brings the PDF and Day 0, the vet visit. From the morning after you choose your track, one email a day, Days 1 to 14, each with that day’s step. The delivery email arrives right after payment.

Each day there’s one step. You read it in that day’s email, which takes a couple of minutes, or in the PDF.

Then you do one thing. Sometimes it’s moving a box a metre to the left. Sometimes it’s sitting on the floor for ten minutes and watching where your cat goes when the doorbell rings. Sometimes it’s nothing at all: some days are for watching what yesterday’s change did.

Some steps use a treat: a quiet reward after the box, a treat on the new scratching post, one tossed gently towards a timid cat. Little Wins, our treats, are made for those moments, and the method kit brings them every 8 weeks with refills for the diffuser and a new toy, so they’re at hand when the day’s step needs them.

Then you spend two minutes on the progress sheet. A tick, a note, a word about how the day went.

That’s it. Most days, the whole thing takes about a quarter of an hour, plus some quiet watching.

The sheet matters more than it looks. When you’re tired and the third puddle of the week is on the floor, it’s easy to feel that nothing is changing. The sheet shows you what actually happened. Sometimes it shows a real pattern you’d never have noticed. Sometimes it shows that Tuesday and Thursday were good days, and that’s good to know too.

Here’s what the litter box track gives you, as concretely as we can put it:

• which of the five most common reasons is most likely in your home: the box itself, where it is, changes at home, another cat, or something outside;
• whether your box, its place and its litter suit your cat, and exactly what to change if they don’t;
• how many boxes your home really needs, and where;
• how to clean an old spot so it stops calling your cat back;
• how to give each cat in a multi-cat home their own space, without a bigger flat;
• what to watch for that means “back to the vet”;
• and what to keep doing after Day 14.

The other three tracks do the same for their problem: why your cat scratches where they do, and which post might suit them; what sets off the hissing or biting, and how to make home safer; what sends your cat into hiding, and how to help them come out without forcing anything.

What we can’t promise is that your cat will change by a certain day. We’d be wary of anyone who does. Every cat and every home is different. What we can promise is a clear method to work out what’s behind it, and a plan for what to change, step by step.

It’s for you if:

• your cat lives indoors, or mostly indoors;
• they pee outside the box, scratch the furniture, lash out at another animal or a person, or hide and won’t settle;
• your vet has ruled out a medical cause, or you’re about to book that visit;
• it’s been going on for a while, and you’d like a plan instead of another tip;
• you can give it a few minutes a day for two weeks;
• you’d like to understand your cat, not just stop a behaviour.

It isn’t for you if:

• your cat seems unwell, or it started overnight. Please see your vet first;
• someone has been seriously hurt, or young children can’t be kept apart from the cat. Ask your vet about a veterinary behaviourist first;
• you’re looking for a product that sorts it out on its own. There isn’t one, and we don’t sell one;
• you’d rather have someone look at your home in person. A consultation with a feline behaviour specialist is the right choice, and we’ll happily tell you so;
• you want a promise that it will be over by a certain date. We won’t make one.

Let’s talk about money plainly.

A home visit from a feline behaviour specialist is the most personal help you can get, and for some cats it’s exactly the right call. If yours is one of them, the guide will tell you so.

Now think about what this problem already costs you. The cleaning sprays. The litters you’ve tried. The rug you threw out. The throw over the sofa. The plasters. The evenings. The worry.

The Stressed Cat is €37, for all four problems. One payment, not a subscription. The PDF and the emails are yours to keep, so you can go back to them if something changes at home later: a move, a new cat, a new baby.

You won’t see a crossed-out price on this page, or a timer. There’s no “normal price” this one is discounted from. The price is simply the price.

Your guide arrives by email right after payment, so you can start the same day. And you can try it for 30 days: if it isn’t right for you and your cat, write to us and we refund you in full, even if you’ve started it. Founding members also help shape the guide: we ask what’s happening at home, and the answers change what we write.

One more thing. We also make what the method uses at home: Little Wins, our treats, and Felina Home, a plug-in diffuser. The complete plan brings the guide and both in one order, for €56.90: €19.90 less than buying each one. After that, the method kit brings what the method uses again and again, every 8 weeks.

The guide, as a PDF. Every step, from the vet check on Day 0 to your plan for the weeks after Day 14, with a track for each of the four problems. Written in plain words, for real homes. Read it on your phone, or print it.

Fourteen daily emails. One each morning for Days 1 to 14, on the track you choose, after Day 0 in the delivery email, so you never have to wonder what comes next.

Twelve printable sheets. The vet visit sheet, a map of your home, the three-day diary, the change log, the 14-day progress sheet, the weekly check, and one for each track. Printable, or on your phone.

Keep: after day 14. The last chapter: a weekly check for six weeks, and what to do after a setback.

Answers to the tricky cases. The cat who only pees on the bed, ignores every post, bites when stroked, or only comes out at night.

Questions? Our team answers by email, at hello@felinacatcare.com.

Yours to keep. No subscription and no expiry. Come back to it whenever you need it.

We haven’t put a “value” next to each item to make the price look small. We’d rather you judged that for yourself.

Nothing dramatic. We won’t pretend otherwise.

But a few things tend to happen, quietly.

Each time your cat uses the same spot, it smells a little more like a toilet to them, and a little more likely to be used again. What started as a spill becomes a habit with a place of its own. Scratching works in a similar way: every scratch leaves a mark and a scent that says “mine”, and the arm of the sofa becomes the obvious place for the next one.

The glass stays full. Whatever was filling it is still there, and the next small change at home, a visitor, a holiday, a new piece of furniture, has nowhere to go.

And something shifts between you and your cat. You start checking the corners when you come home. You pick them up less. You catch yourself watching them with suspicion. Cats are good at noticing tension, even when they don’t know where it comes from.

There’s one good reason to wait: if you haven’t been to the vet yet. Then wait, and go first.

Otherwise, the best day to start reading your cat’s glass is the next one you have.

We’re asking you to trust a name you may not know yet. The least we can do is make it easy to change your mind.

The guide has its own money-back promise. Try the guide for 30 days from the day it arrives. If it isn’t right for you and your cat, write to us and we refund you in full, even if you’ve started it.

And you keep every legal right you have, including the EU right to withdraw: for the guide, it ends once it’s delivered, with your consent at checkout; for Little Wins, Felina Home and the method kit, you have 14 days from the day they arrive. The details will be in our terms of sale, published when sales open.

You don’t have to explain yourself, fill in a form or post anything back to get a refund: write to hello@felinacatcare.com from the address you used to pay.